STEADY ME — GUIDE ME — FREE ME

During my time as a therapist I have become more and more interested in the ways that we navigate change when we are on the receiving end of it and the ways in which we bring about change in our lives.  Midlife is notoriously a bit of a change-fest and that’s before we add in the multitude of changes that come along with menopause.

I’m a self-confessed therapy geek so I couldn’t resist the urge to try and condense the knowledge I’ve acquired as a therapist into a simple, powerful formula.  This change formula underpins every aspect of Making Your Way from 1:1, groups and workshops, right through to my guided journal and essential oil blends.

Grounded in contextual and behavioural science, my change formula centres around three core skill-sets:

STEADY ME

This skill set is about being present, assessing the terrain and the resources available.

Recalibrate; Learn; Listen; Discover; Tune-in; Curious; Notice; Lean in; Clarify; Calm; Aware; Cultivate; Begin

Where am I?
How am I?
What choices can I make?

Great when:
You have lots of plates spinning
You’re feeling over-whelmed or being pulled in different directions
You’ve lost a sense of who you are as a person
You’re finding it hard to focus or to be present in the moment
You aren’t sure what you want in life
You feel as though you’re surviving, not thriving
You’re stuck in a rut or feeling dissatisfied but aren’t sure why
You’re going through some kind of change in life (good or bad!)
You don’t really understand what makes you tick
You’re not sure what brings you a sense of joy or purpose

 

GUIDE ME

This skill set is centred on identifying your personal values, choosing the direction that you want your path to take.

Aspire; Inspire; Values; What Matters; Authentic; Integrity; Pride; Truth; Enrich; Meaning; Genuine
Where do I want to be?
How do I want to get there?
What do I choose?

 

Great when:
You know what you don’t want, but not what you do
You’re struggling to find the motivation to make changes
You’re avoiding making decisions and choices
You feel as though you’re going through the motions
It’s hard to stick at things
You want to make a change but don’t know where to start
It’s difficult to consider your own wants and needs
You aren’t sure what you want in life
You believe you could feel happier or more fulfilled but don’t know how
You’ve lost sight of what matters to you
You’re at a crossroads in your life
You need to make some important or difficult choices
You’re adjusting to or going through a period of change

 

FREE ME

This skill set empowers you to let go of all that is no longer serving you.

Courage; Empower; Liberate; Let go; Kindness; Honour; Choice; Compassion; Flexibility; Respect; Acceptance; Vitality

Where are the obstacles?
How do I overcome them?
What are the actions that reflect my choices?

Great when:
You’re wanting to let go of things that no longer serve you
You know what you want or need to do but self-doubt holds you back
The coping strategies you usually use aren’t working any more
You’re struggling to move on from something
You don’t feel confident enough to try new things
You spend too much time comparing yourself to others
You put a lot of pressure on yourself and often feel like you’ve failed
Life seems to be passing you by
You often seem to get in your own way, or sabotage yourself
Your inner-critic is really loud
You’re not doing the things that matter to you because you feel afraid, anxious or undeserving.